To be in your shoes is likely a walk with a wide range of emotions. Some days you feel like your marriage is close to the brink, and other days you feel better. If you are bouncing around between hope, despair, uncertainty, worry, a sense of freedom, and maybe shame or guilt--well, you are normal [...]
The “D” word can rock a man to his core. Whether or not you knew your wife was unhappy, if she brings up divorce, it time for your immediate, thoughtful attention. No doubt there is a ton of things going on in your marriage right now--way beyond the scope of a small blog post. You [...]
Email Share Tweet Pin If you haven’t heard that money is the top reason for divorce, you’ve probably been living under a rock. This idea is so prevalent that many money experts use it in marketing their services. Unfortunately… cue the tape on nerd glasses research moment… it just ain’t true. When researchers asked divorcing [...]
If you’re reading this post, chances are you’re in the throes of a decision about divorce, or someone close to you is. We want to help right now with this monumentally hard place in your private and public life by sharing new (yes, literally new) information not out there in Google land. Before we begin, understand you’re [...]
The journey towards saving your marriage is not easy. We offer you solid support through the following six tips. They may go against your instincts right now, but rest assured, your best chance is NOT adding more emotion and drama into the situation.
It’s commonly believed that when people enter the legal divorce process, they have come to accept the reality that divorce is inevitable. Even therapists and lawyers tend to assume that once divorce papers are filed, ambivalence about divorcing is over and the only task ahead is to help couples have a constructive end to their [...]
We've seen people in your shoes—a spouse announces a divorce—make a bunch of mistakes when it comes to talking with others. One mistake is to not tell anyone, often out of shame or to avoid recognizing the threat at real. The result is isolation and stewing in one’s juices. A second mistake is to tell [...]
Discernment Counseling is a specialized new way to work with what we call “mixed-agenda” couples—one leaning out of the marriage and not sure about couples therapy, and the other leaning in. It’s brief—no more than five sessions—and has the goal not to solve the marital problems right now but to help the couple develop clarity [...]