To Stay Or Go

Deciding whether to stay in a marriage is a painful, long journey for most individual spouses. Divorce is rarely a shared decision, which puts an extra burden on the person trying to weigh the pros and cons of staying versus leaving. Having doubts is not made any easier by sharing the news with your spouse. [...]
Are You a Leaning In Husband?

Are You a Leaning In Husband?

EmailShare22Tweet22 Shares You have been told your marriage is on the rocks. Whether you agree or not, your wife has taken the fate of the marriage in her hands. You are swirling with a range of emotions, none of them pleasant. What to do right now to keep your sanity?  We talk at length about [...]
Are You a Leaning Out Spouse?

Are You a Leaning Out Spouse?

We've invented a new term—leaning-out spouse—that may describe you right now. You’ve been worried about your marriage for a long time. Or maybe you’re in a crisis after an affair comes out. Either way, you’re seriously thinking about divorce but you haven’t made a final decision. Maybe you’ve told your spouse directly, or maybe you’ve either kept [...]
What is Marital Doubt?

What is Marital Doubt?

EmailShareTweet People usually keep doubts about their marriage to themselves. Here we’re not talking about ordinary concerns about the relationship or even feeling in a stuck pattern—instead, we’re talking about worries about whether the marriage will survive. This is scary to think about. If you tell others, you might get unhelpful suggestions such as “just [...]
Money is Never a Reason for Divorce

Money is Never a Reason for Divorce

EmailShareTweet If you haven’t heard that money is the top reason for divorce, you’ve probably been living under a rock. This idea is so prevalent that many money experts use it in marketing their services. Unfortunately… cue the tape on nerd glasses research moment… it just ain’t true. When researchers asked divorcing people, point blank, [...]
On the Brink

On the Brink

If you’re reading this post, chances are you’re in the throes of a decision about divorce, or someone close to you is. We want to help right now with this monumentally hard place in your private and public life by sharing new (yes, literally new) information not out there in Google land. Before we begin, understand you’re [...]