Fundamental idea #1: You can only change yourself, and then hope your spouse will change their part in the relationship.
Fundamental idea #2: Someone has to go first in making changes.
Fundamental idea #3: If you think you’re doing everything you can already, it means you are not working on the right things.
Fundamental idea #4: If you think you have a pretty good handle on your relationship issues, you don’t. It’s all more complicated than it seems: you, your spouse, and your relationship.