Summary:

Fundamental idea #1: You can only change yourself, and then hope your spouse will change their part in the relationship.

Fundamental idea #2:  Someone has to go first in making changes.

Fundamental idea #3:  If you think you’re doing everything you can already, it means you are not working on the right things.

Fundamental idea #4:  If you think you have a pretty good handle on your relationship issues, you don’t.  It’s all more complicated than it seems: you, your spouse, and your relationship.