Angela DeCandia Vitoria, LCSW

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    Availability: Available Openings
    License: Clinical Social Worker
    Address: 491 Bloomfield Ave
    Montclair
    New Jersey
    07042
    United States

    Best Way of Reaching Me: Phone or Email is Fine
    The reason I chose to specialize in marriage and couples counseling is….:

    There is nothing more joyful and powerful than a safe, secure loving bond where you feel cherished, respected and “home.” I learned this over and over early in my practice after 911 with individuals suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder. The clients who had a secure relationship recovered more quickly and more deeply than those who did not. I started to invite the spouses and partners into the individual sessions. What I found over time was that the first foundation for healing pain in the individual, was to repair hurts in the relationship, break through repeating cycles of conflict and negative communication and rebuild the bond that originally brought the couple together. The “couple work” brought about transformation NOT just with the original client, but for their partner, the relationship and in many situations their children/family. I devoted my professional education to couples, embarked upon an intensive training to become a certified therapist and supervisor in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, created a specialized practice, and started teaching the model throughout the tri-state area. My couples have not only transformed — they have transformed me and it has been a joyful professional journey!

    What you most enjoy about working with couples is….:

    I will admit, having a practice that is 85% couples is not always easy. Couples are often in pain for a very long time before seeking therapy, so by the time I see them, their hurt and sadness has turned into anger and rage. The challenge of getting underneath the anger does not deter me. I know there is “something” (love…family…history??) that is compelling the couple to expose the most private aspects of their relationship to a complete stranger, not to mention making a time and financial commitment with no guarantee of outcome…talk about risk! I love the transformative process of couple therapy. I love the moments when one person sees or hears something they have never heard before form their partner. I love the moments where a smile cracks through a wall of protection. I love the moments where couples begin to be “curious” about their partner’s pain, needs, and longings, rather than being defensive about their prior inability to understand these things. I am always honored by the trust and moved by the process of taking the journey with a couple fighting for their relationship. It makes the early sessions where I feel like a referee, well worth the work, the patience and the belief in their ability to heal.

    Are there kinds of couples or issues that you work with a lot?:

    I work with a diverse clientele, but over the years, a few specializations have emerged. I work a great deal with couples recovering from an affair. This is a special kind of trauma to the relationship. I also work with couples where one or both have experienced trauma prior to, or outside of the relationship. Many of these clients are adult children of alcoholic parents, or have experienced childhood physical or sexual abuse. I also work with couples that did not have relationship concerns, but are struggling when a child is diagnosed with a life threatening illnesses, or have lost a child. I also do premarital counseling and pre / post “first baby” counseling to help new parents cope and protect the couple as they become parents.

    What are the steps to becoming a client in my practice?:

    I like to have a 15 minute phone conference to let prospective clients get a sense of me before scheduling the first appointment. I also want to make sure I can meet their appointment needs, as some couples may need to be seen outside of the hours of my practice. Since I teach this model and have supervised many EFT Couple therapists, if I cannot meet the appointment requirements of a couple, I can refer them with confidence to someone who works in the same model, whom I trust.

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Availability: Available Openings
License: Clinical Social Worker
Address: 491 Bloomfield Ave
Montclair
New Jersey
07042
United States
Best Way of Reaching Me: Phone or Email is Fine
The reason I chose to specialize in marriage and couples counseling is….:

There is nothing more joyful and powerful than a safe, secure loving bond where you feel cherished, respected and "home." I learned this over and over early in my practice after 911 with individuals suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder. The clients who had a secure relationship recovered more quickly and more deeply than those who did not. I started to invite the spouses and partners into the individual sessions. What I found over time was that the first foundation for healing pain in the individual, was to repair hurts in the relationship, break through repeating cycles of conflict and negative communication and rebuild the bond that originally brought the couple together. The "couple work" brought about transformation NOT just with the original client, but for their partner, the relationship and in many situations their children/family. I devoted my professional education to couples, embarked upon an intensive training to become a certified therapist and supervisor in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, created a specialized practice, and started teaching the model throughout the tri-state area. My couples have not only transformed -- they have transformed me and it has been a joyful professional journey!

What you most enjoy about working with couples is….:

I will admit, having a practice that is 85% couples is not always easy. Couples are often in pain for a very long time before seeking therapy, so by the time I see them, their hurt and sadness has turned into anger and rage. The challenge of getting underneath the anger does not deter me. I know there is "something" (love...family...history??) that is compelling the couple to expose the most private aspects of their relationship to a complete stranger, not to mention making a time and financial commitment with no guarantee of outcome...talk about risk! I love the transformative process of couple therapy. I love the moments when one person sees or hears something they have never heard before form their partner. I love the moments where a smile cracks through a wall of protection. I love the moments where couples begin to be "curious" about their partner's pain, needs, and longings, rather than being defensive about their prior inability to understand these things. I am always honored by the trust and moved by the process of taking the journey with a couple fighting for their relationship. It makes the early sessions where I feel like a referee, well worth the work, the patience and the belief in their ability to heal.

Are there kinds of couples or issues that you work with a lot?:

I work with a diverse clientele, but over the years, a few specializations have emerged. I work a great deal with couples recovering from an affair. This is a special kind of trauma to the relationship. I also work with couples where one or both have experienced trauma prior to, or outside of the relationship. Many of these clients are adult children of alcoholic parents, or have experienced childhood physical or sexual abuse. I also work with couples that did not have relationship concerns, but are struggling when a child is diagnosed with a life threatening illnesses, or have lost a child. I also do premarital counseling and pre / post “first baby” counseling to help new parents cope and protect the couple as they become parents.

What are the steps to becoming a client in my practice?:

I like to have a 15 minute phone conference to let prospective clients get a sense of me before scheduling the first appointment. I also want to make sure I can meet their appointment needs, as some couples may need to be seen outside of the hours of my practice. Since I teach this model and have supervised many EFT Couple therapists, if I cannot meet the appointment requirements of a couple, I can refer them with confidence to someone who works in the same model, whom I trust.

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