Before I became a therapist, I was asked to arrange a one-day conference on marriage. The room was packed, and the participants' deeply felt need to repair and rescue hurting marriages touched me. In my training, I became aware of attachment needs we all have, and how a strong and thriving marriage can benefit partners, children, and generations to come.
I love skill-building, particularly around communication. I am thrilled when couples "get it," and find ways to connect more deeply. Context is important too, for lifting blame and making sense of entrenched negative patterns. I offer family-of-origin work to enhance understanding. A husband once told me that hearing his wife talk about her family's challenges was "the best money I ever spent."
Couples who are "on the fence," or with one leaning out of the marriage and the other still fully committed, make up a lot of my practice. Working with ambivalence is hard, and I use mindfulness-based strategies to help couples slow down their interactions and increase awareness of obstacles to moving forward.
I offer a free phone consult for prospective clients. The next step is an initial session for mutual assessment and agreement on goals. Then we are off and running!