Your relationship with your partner can be the biggest source of joy or pain in your life. My mission is to be the best couples counselor I can be, so I can bring you and your partner back to joy.
I love the aha moments that happen when two people suddenly hear and feel from each other (and they really take it in) what they have been so longing to hear and feel in the relationship -- and maybe all their lives.
We all get into negative cycles at times with our partners, that make us feel more distant from each other. Unfortunately, without meaning to, we often deal with disconnection in a way that scares the other person and pushes him or her farther away. When each person’s response to disconnection inadvertently alarms the other and increases the distance between you, a vicious circle ensues. Using Emotionally Focused Therapy, I will help you step out of your negative cycle and make sense of the expectations, emotions, and unmet needs that were driving it. You’ll learn how to express your needs and emotions in a way that feels safe to the other person and helps him or her to respond and come closer to you. A similar process can help you heal your relationship after a betrayal or abandonment (such as an affair), leading to forgiveness and renewed trust.
Call, email, or text me to schedule an appointment. I also offer a free 20-minute phone or office consultation. As we talk about the issues that are bringing you to counseling and how my approach could help, you will also be able to get a feel for whether you would feel comfortable working with me.