Marriage is hard. That might be a trite thing to say, but it's not something I understood when I got married the first time. After that fell apart, I met my second wife Molly. I wanted to do it right this time, but I still didn't know how to do that. We both started grad school to become counselors and came across the research of Dr Gottman. Suddenly, all of our struggles and all the things that worked well for us made a lot more sense. Bringing an intentional approach to our marriage has helped us to be better and happier partners.
I chose to specialize in couples because our relationships are our most important ventures in life. They are certainly one of the biggest influences on our happiness. I want to help people succeed at creating the relationship they want to have.
I really like interacting with the marriage as a system. By helping people see their own role in what isn't working (and its effect on their partner), I can help choose much more successful strategies for getting what they want. It is so common to find that the needs, motivations, and hurts are the same on both sides of the conflict--and that both people are coming from a really reasonable place. When you understand where your partner is coming from, compromise is a lot easier.
I offer Gottman Method Couples Therapy, specializing in infidelity recovery and work with high-conflict or volatile couples. If you are trying to overcome betrayals of trust, or you are best friends, except when you hate each other, you're the perfect couple for me.
Contact me via email or phone to set up a free phone consultation. I'll take 20 minutes to discuss the particulars of your situation and to explain my approach so that we know I'm the best fit for your needs. My methods don't work for everybody, and if I'm not right for you, I'll direct you to someone who is.