I believe the pull we have as humans to connect to another is one of the strongest forces we experience. Throughout my career, I have been intrigued by the power of relationships to heal and aid in coping. I believe that secure, loving connections have a powerful impact on the way we navigate challenges and thrive as humans. This truth has borne true throughout the various clinical settings in which I have worked in the past 20 years, whether it is providing treatment to veterans at the VA Healthcare System, first responders at a retreat program, students at a college counseling center, or a CEO in a leadership development program, the same truth is clear: relationships have the power to heal or hurt. The quality of our connections to a significant other has the power to shape how we see ourselves, others and our functioning in the world. Marriage is more than a legal contract, it is driven by strong emotional and biological longings to be seen and loved. When these longings are met, it brings joy untold, but if walls and hurts exist, the pain has the power to cripple us. I work with couples to heal the hurts and break down the walls that block intimacy. It is a privilege and honor to assist couples to create and nurture a healthy marriage. I have specialized training in couples’ therapy (Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Gottman Therapy) and love to help couples heal.
I have the privilege of doing the work I love. Helping couples to deepen their connection and find the way to each other's heart in spite of the wounds and risk that typically keep us apart is an honor. When couples are able to see and reveal their true selves to their partner, feel understood and accepted by their mate, it is magical. I believe in the inherent power of attachment
I work with couples in all stages of connection. Couples with long histories of living parallel and separate lives, couples post affairs or facing major life issues like illness or loss of a child are some of the issues I have addressed. Communication issues is the most common complaint, but at the core of all the presenting issues is a breach in the attachment and connection bond. My treatment approach is based on addressing the fundamental questions of "Are you there for me?" "Can you accept and love me, even though I am not perfect?"
Potential clients call and set up a phone 10-15 minute consult. I speak to both members of the couple, getting a brief perspective on what they hope to work on in therapy as well as share my approach to couple's work. Once it is determined that my services will be a fit, we set an appointment.