My focus is on couples because I honestly believe that knowing we matter and are cherished by our partner is the most important factor in creating strong, resilient human beings who can then show up in our society as contributors-as parents, as workers, as policy makers, as artists, etc! It may sound idealistic, but it's a very basic need that all couples deserve.
That moment of emerging awareness-that "Ah hah!" -that moment when one partner says to the other "I didn't know that about you" or "We've never talked like that before"-it is so gratifying to help with that awareness, securing that bond between them that they never could have imagined. I like to say that I am good at imagining possibility for couples when they struggle to see any possibility.
I work with couples of all ages, but those that move me and challenge me the most are in mid-life or older. Consider all of the challenges occurring during this time, from child rearing to child launching, to helping elderly parents, to worries about money and being able to plan for retirement, to fighting over the same issues without resolution, to sex drive differences or other physical changes, to just plain growing apart. This is often a time when marital satisfaction decreases, when busy couples can lose sight of the importance of nurturing their relationship and struggle with the question, do I matter to you?
You can e-mail me or call-and I will get back to you within 24 hours except for weekends and holidays. I require meeting both of you in a 30 minute, free consultation in my office-where we can get a good sense of fit (research shows that fit is more important than any modality of therapy I do!) You'll give me a synopsis of what brings you to counseling and I'll describe what you can expect- from how I schedule, what my approach is and why, and a general view of what a session might look like for you.