I believe that we are happiest in connected, safe, fulfilling relationships. Helping couples find their way back to each other, even when there have been long periods of disconnection and discord is very satisfying to me. Children need their parents to be present to them and need to see functional relationships. When parents are at odds, children’s needs are not getting met and they are not getting to see their parents work though difficult times. Helping families thrive is a passion of mine.
What I most enjoy about working with couples is helping partners reconnect and find peace with each other and with themselves. I practice from the perspective of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) (https://iceeft.com/what-is-eft/) and find a great deal of success with this method. EFT has helped me stay grounded with highly distressed couples and help each partner find understanding and calm whether they are a shutdown partner or an escalated partner. Together we will journey into the pain of feeling alone and not good enough with your partner. I will be with you both in helping you to heal your relationship, whether from an affair or injury, or simply from the slow erosion of good will over time into distance, discord, and disconnection.
My practice is filled with couples who are wanting to work though their difficult places and find connection and harmony with each other. While a partner may not want the relationship in its current state with all the hurt and pain, each partner has at least the willingness to explore the hope of making changes towards a creating a satisfying relationship. I work with physical and emotional affairs and all of the ways that a partner may distance from the potential pain of connection including shutting down, getting angry, alcohol, drugs, work, pornography. Together we look at what each partner is doing and how it affects the other. We look at how these positions are predictable and painful and how when we really slow the negative pattern down, we can find different ways of experiencing our partner and expressing ourselves. Bit by bit, we create the safety for deep emotional connection. Sometimes this is the first time in their life that a partner can experience another as a safe and meaningful connection.
Please go to my website at www.DrLucilleKeenan.com and get to know me a bit better. Under the Getting Started tab, you will find the links to my forms and way to set an appointment. If you have any trouble at all, please text me at 919-604-7401 and I will be happy to guide you though this process.