I believe in marriage and the importance of being in a committed relationship for each partner and for children, if there are children. People are wired, at birth, for connection and thrive in healthy relationships. As well, they live longer and find more contentment in life.
I love seeing the changes in the relationship as people begin to open up about their underlying fears, needs and longings in a safe, supportive environment, such as in couple therapy. I use an attachment-based therapy called Emotionally Focused Therapy, where we look at the underlying disconnect in the attachment and what might be getting triggered when a couple is getting disconnected. There are often feelings of not being important, not being needed or respected or fears of being alone, not good enough or not being able to make their partner happy. We slow down the process to understand underlying emotions that fuel the disconnection so that coupes can not blame one another but rather hear the pain and develop an understanding and empathy for one another. Couples learn that this is a non-pathologizing approach and one that works on the premise that the couple is in this together and they need to work together to change their relationship.
I see a lot of parents with young children who are struggling to connect to one another amidst the juggling of parenting, work and other life demands. I also see couples who have experienced a betrayal in the relationship.
To become a client, the first step is to contact me by phone to set up an initial conversation so that I can hear of your difficulties and share my way of working with couple.