To Stay Or Go

Deciding whether to stay in a marriage is a painful, long journey for most individual spouses.

Divorce is rarely a shared decision, which puts an extra burden on the person trying to weigh the pros and cons of staying versus leaving.

Having doubts is not made any easier by sharing the news with your spouse. What can they do or say to change your mind? Do you even think there is anything they can do, or is this a mindset shift you've made and only you can find your way through it?

If you've not yet shared your doubts with your spouse, you are not alone. Millions of people are in your shoes: doubting alone.

The blog posts below are meant to help you sort through what may be ailing your marriage.

If you have shared your doubts with your spouse, we suggest looking at Discernment Counseling. We also have a helpful, free mini-course on the 5 barriers to change many wives face. (We are working on material for husbands considering leaving.)

On the Brink

You’re in the throes of a decision about divorce, or your spouse is threatening divorce. What each of you do and say now is ...


Are You a Leaning In Husband?

You have been told your marriage is on the rocks.Whether you agree or not, your wife has taken the fate of the marriage in ...


Are You a Leaning Out Spouse?

You've been worried about your marriage for a long time.Or maybe you’re in a crisis after an affair comes out. Either way, you’re seriously ...


Are You a Leaning Out Wife?

He could be sad, angry, hurt, frustrated.He may be debating every word you say. On your end, it feels like you finally got the ...


What is Marital Doubt?

People usually keep doubts about their marriage to themselves.Here we’re not talking about ordinary concerns about the relationship or even feeling in a stuck ...


Are You A Wife Considering Divorce?

To be in your shoes is likely a walk with a wide range of emotions.Some days you feel like your marriage is close to ...


Inventory of “Healthy” Spouses Contributions

We want to help spouses who are feeling stuck in a marriage with a “hard” problem, which we define as the “Triple A‘s”: Affairs, ...


Money is Never a Reason for Divorce

If you haven't heard that money is the to reason for divorce, you've probably been living under a rock.This idea is so prevalent that ...


A Marriage Isn't Over Until It’s Over: Research On Divorce Ambivalence

Considering Divorce vs. Attempting Couples Therapy? Click to Learn About Discernment Counseling It’s commonly believed that when people enter the legal divorce process, they ...


Who to Talk To – And Who Not To Talk To Around A Potential Divorce

Considering Divorce vs. Attempting Couples Therapy? Click to Learn About Discernment Counseling We've seen people in your shoes—a spouse announces a divorce—make a bunch ...


Discernment Counseling

Discernment Counseling is a specialized new way to work with what we call “mixed-agenda” couples—one leaning out of the marriage and not sure about ...